There’s something beautiful about sharing a meal.
Two people, one table, one plate. No boundaries. No “mine” or “yours.” Just us.

In many cultures, eating from the same plate is a sign of intimacy and trust. It says, “I want to be close. I’m not afraid of the mess, the mix, or the unknown. I’m all in.”

Now imagine that same concept in your marriage.
Are you sharing the plate—or just sitting across from each other, feeding yourselves?

 When Did We Stop Sharing?

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership.
But sometimes, over time, it shifts.
We divide responsibilities. We divide space. We divide emotions.

And before we realize it, we’re not sharing anymore—we’re coexisting. The result?
Less laughter. Less depth. Less intimacy.

Not because we stopped loving each other, but because we stopped doing the little things that build closeness.

 It’s Not About the Plate—It’s About the Heart

You can sit at the same dinner table every night and still feel miles apart.
But you can also start rebuilding connection in the smallest, most meaningful ways:

• A shared conversation instead of screen time.
• A shared dream instead of just a to-do list.
• A shared moment of silence, holding hands, just breathing together.

Marriage isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence.
It’s not about never failing—it’s about choosing each other, again and again, through it all.

What Could Be Missing?

Let’s be honest. If something feels “off” in your marriage, it’s probably not about the schedule or the stress or the kids (though those are real).

What may be missing is:

• Intentional time
• Emotional safety
• Spiritual connection
• Playfulness
• A shared life—not just a shared space

And none of those things happen by accident.
They happen when we choose to share our plate again—our hearts, our fears, our hopes, our messy parts.

Start Small, Go Deep

You don’t have to plan a romantic getaway (though go for it if you can!).
Try these simple ways to bring connection back:

• Ask real questions: “What’s been on your heart this week?”
• Serve each other without being asked
• Pray together—even if it feels awkward at first
• Be silly. Remember why you fell in love
• Say ‘thank you’ for the little things. Gratitude builds connection.

Final Thought: Choose the Shared Plate

Marriage isn’t something you find. It’s something you build—brick by brick, moment by moment.

So if you’re feeling the distance, don’t panic.
Lean in. Pick up the fork. Share the plate.
Because sometimes, what your marriage is missing isn’t something big.

It’s you, showing up again—with grace, love, and an open heart.

And that? That changes everything.